Are you struggling to get along with your spouse? It's so important to pray for your marriage and this post explains 10 powerful reasons why.

I was tired of being mad at my spouse. I was tired of allowing hurt feelings to consume me. Tired of being easily offended. I wanted to be at peace. I wanted healing for the broken places in my marriage. 

One day I poured out my heart before the Lord and told Him I would fight for the covenant of my marriage. That I would believe in it and stop allowing negative thoughts about my spouse to embitter me.

I’ve always loved to write out my prayers to God. And so I decided to spend 31 days praying for the aspects in my marriage that I struggled with. Concerns of my heart. Areas that I knew I needed to work on. Areas of prayer and supplication for my spouse. 

I needed to earnestly seek God’s wisdom and guidance. 

During this process, I learned some important reasons why I should always be diligent to pray for my marriage.

The enemy is seeking to destroy marriage

Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith. I Peter 5:8-9

When I think about the unseen spiritual forces of this world I wonder what these forces are doing behind the invisible scenes when my spouse and I aren’t getting along. I picture the devil sneaking around our minds pointing out areas of discontent and grinning an evil smile when our thoughts turn against one another and we end up in an argument. The more we each stand in our stubborn ways, the happier Satan gets. When I begin to see my spouse as my enemy, Satan knows he has gained victory. But I know that victory is temporary if I humble myself and start to pray.

The real enemy of our marriage is Satan. He wants to divide and separate and he will prowl around and do anything He can to put you against each other.

When I look at my marriage with spiritual eyes I begin to know who I should be fighting against. And that’s Satan. Not my spouse. And the best way to fight for my marriage and against Satan is through the power of prayer!

Prayer brings you comfort when your heart is filled with sorrow.

God loves you and wants you to let him know what you are feeling inside. You don’t have to hold it all in. Release it. Surrender it. Tell him everything. Let him carry your burden for you. He is your constant friend and He will never leave you or forsake you. 

Cast all your anxiety on him, for he cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7

Prayer softens our hearts towards God, and towards our spouse. 

Prayer just has a way of settling our spirits and calming us down. Whenever I pray I feel my heart begin to soften. It’s hard to pray for someone and be mad at them for very long. But even if you are, you can tell that to God too. Being honest about your feelings has a cleansing effect that will help you to forgive. You can also pray that God would soften the heart of your spouse towards you. I love praying this and then noticing a difference that I know only came from God working behind the scenes without me having to say a word. 

I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh.”

—  Ezekiel 36:26

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Prayer gives you peace when the problem isn’t solved.

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When you don’t know what to do. When you don’t know how to communicate. When you don’t know what to say. When you don’t know how a conflict will be resolved–asking God for direction and guidance will calm the anxiety in your heart about finding the answer. When we trust in God and tell him that we want to do the right thing but we don’t know what that is, it releases us to place trust in the Lord and wait for his direction and answers.

I usually want conflict solved right away. But it isn’t always that easy. There have been times my spouse and I have gone to counseling and we still can’t seem to find the right solutions. When our peace comes from God we don’t have to wait for the conflict to be resolved before we can have peace. Prayer helps us release the problem to God and rest in Him even when the problem isn’t solved. 

And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:7

Prayer helps us see clearly through the filters of our own misperceptions and viewpoints.

Have you ever thought you were oh so right about a situation only to find out that your viewpoint was skewed by your own experiences and way of looking at things? Well, I have. It’s not fun to discover this, but it certainly helps us realize that sometimes we just have to concede to the fact that our judgments about what is going on could very well be misread and misinterpreted through our own sinful filters. Prayer helps me to see the cloudy lenses that are blocking my vision.

See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. Psalm 139:24

God gives us wisdom through prayer and reading His word.

There’s one thing that God promises to give to everyone who is diligently seeking Him.  And that’s wisdom. Isn’t that comforting? God may not reveal his wisdom all at once to you. But if you fervently seek God through reading His word and prayer with a desire to know Him, He promises to give you the wisdom you seek. 

If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. James 1:5 NIV

Prayer removes the roots of bitterness.

My husband recently had the tree on our front lawn cut down. But before we could plant another tree we had to dig up all the roots under the ground. And boy were there a lot of them. And some of them were huge! There are places buried deep within us that may harbor bitterness towards our spouse. We can only find them when we dig down deep. And then they require effort and intention to get rid of. Prayer helps us to see the things that aren’t visible on the surface. Prayer is the digging required to discover the roots spreading bitterness.

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Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.

Hebrews 12:15

Prayer helps you forgive.

When I pray for my spouse God begins to turn my thoughts around and helps me see his needs and hurts. As I pray for his needs I begin to look at my spouse as God’s child and as my brother in Christ. We are both children of God. I remember God created my spouse with his distinct personality for a reason. I’m reminded of the measure of grace God has given to me and that God requires I forgive just as he has forgiven me.

Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Colossians 3:13

Prayer helps you live in the power of the Holy Spirit.

The truth is, I cannot love my spouse adequately in my own strength. I fail when I try to do it on my own. I’m disappointed when I try to love in order to get my own needs met. But when I allow the Holy Spirit to live in and through me and my motivation is to please God no matter what the results, then I can give love freely and have peace even if it’s not returned the way I hoped for. The Holy Spirit helps me to hold my tongue. To wait. To surrender my stubborn will. To stop counting wrongs, and not be easily offended.

But the Advocate, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you.  John 14:26

Prayer promises you the assurance that God hears you.

God never promised that every time we pray we would feel Him. During some of my most desperate times of prayer, I didn’t always feel him. Sometimes I did. But sometimes I didn’t. 

That’s when we need to remember what God does promise. He promises to hear us when we pray. He promises that He is with us even when we can’t see or feel him. 

And we are confident that he hears us whenever we ask for anything that pleases him.

 1 John 5:14 NLT

Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.

Psalm 119:105

God is the lamp who shines the light on our feet so we can see the next step on the path He has for us. 

I rejoice in his guidance and presence every step of the way.

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