In Love Like You’ve Never Been Hurt, Pastor Jentezen Franklin cheers us on to fight for our relationships with unconditional love and forgiveness.
He uses his own story of personal pain to help others find the courage to love like they’ve never been hurt.
During a time when Franklin’s books were becoming New York Times Best Sellers and his sermons were being broadcast all over the world, it felt like his family was falling apart.
Their oldest daughter moved away to college and got involved with the wrong crowd. It broke his heart to watch her stray from everything he had taught his children to value. He and his wife decided to bring her home. Shortly after, she ran away without contacting them for a week. A few months later she informed her parents she got married via a text.
A week later, he performed the wedding ceremony for one of his daughter’s friends and felt disappointed that he wouldn’t have the same opportunity to officiate at his own daughter’s wedding.
The ones whom you love the most can hurt you the most.
But Franklin decided to love her as if he’d never been hurt and she eventually came back to the Lord.
Love is the answer to the broken home. Love is the answer to the addict. Love is the answer to fractured relationships. Love is the answer to being offended. Love is the answer to heartbreak. Love is a weapon that can shatter division and rebuild what has been broken.
Throughout the book, Franklin offers these practical ways to build a successful family:
- Openly communicate with and express love to your spouse.
- Openly communicate with and express love to your children.
- Enable open communication and expression of love between siblings.
- Respect the personhood of each individual.
- Respect personal property.
- Respect their privacy, but consider their safety and well-being first.
- Establish, communicate and enforce boundaries.
- Be committed to the process.
- Place Jesus above all else.
- Lead by example.
The tone of this book felt like listening to a sermon motivating you to fight for your children and your marriage and love them unconditionally.
I especially enjoyed the quotes highlighted in bold throughout the chapters.
“The depth of your hurt determines the width of your response.”
“The greater the battle the greater the victory.”
“God never commanded us to reject people because they are not living up to a certain spiritual standard.”
“Forgiveness is not about keeping score, it’s about losing count.”
“Want to know how holy you are? Determine how kind you are.”
“Trying times are not the times to stop trying.”
I received a free copy of this book from Chosen Publishing in exchange for my honest review.